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What is the normal amount of sex?

What is the normal amount of sex?

How about the frequency of sex? Sex is everywhere in the media-from TV shows to movies to marketing campaigns. You’d think it’s normal for people to have sex everyday-at least! But that can’t be right. Can it? (Gulp. Sob.)

So much depends on the circumstances! Certainly for a young couple in the early throes of a love relationship, it’s perfectly normal that they have a lot of sex-daily if not more frequently. But as most people know from experience, this phase of a sexual relationship hardly ever continues for more than a few months at that initially fiery tempo. What’s “normal” in a long-term relationship varies with the age of the couple and the age of the relationship-and, not surprisingly, the frequency of sex declines with both.

As for averages, it’s hard to find good data because so many surveys are biased in one way or another. Online surveys, for example, are clearly biased toward younger and more affluent respondents. One of the most careful studies done in recent years is the American Sexual Behavior Study from 2006. Here’s what the study authors found.

Frequency of Sexual Intercourse:

(mean number per year)                                                     

Married Couples

Unmarried Couples

Age

Frequency of Intercourse

Age

Frequency of Intercourse

18-29

109.1

18-29

73.4

30-39

87.0

30-39

67.8

40-49

70.2

40-49

48.2

50-59

52.5

50-59

29.3

60-69

32.2

60-69

16.2

70+

17.2

70+

3.3

So you can see that even young married couples are having sex, on average, about once every three days or so, and the frequency goes down from there. What really matters, of course, is not whether you are having more or less than “normal” but whether the sex you have is satisfying. Some couples can be quite content with very little sex, while others desire much more.

Read more of Dr. Fisch’s advice in his book:
Size Matters; The Hard Facts About Male Sexuality That Every Woman Should Know…And All The Knowledge You Need To Improve Your Sex Life

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