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‘I’m watching porn at the office and falling behind on my work’

‘I’m watching porn at the office and falling behind on my work’

Mark is an accountant dealing with a large workload. He has fallen behind on his work because he watches porn and masturbates at his office. He watches at least four hours of porn a day.  Sometimes he rushes home to watch more porn and masturbate before his wife gets home.

My Advice:

Mark, this is really serious, you could lose your family and your job.

You’re addicted to porn, it’s clearly hurting you at work and it’s probably hurting your relationship, too. It’s just like being an alcoholic. The first step is admitting you have a problem, so calling me was a good start.

You say that the internet is your friend and you watch internet porn because of the vast amount of material out there. So many different shapes and sizes, you say. But, the internet is not your friend. The internet has become part of an obsessive-compulsive disorder and your relationship with it is not healthy.

You are masturbating so much with porn that you’re only having sex with your wife about once a week and sometimes you can’t climax.  That’s called retarded ejaculation. You should be having sex with her at least twice to three times a week and not masturbating so that you can finish when you’re with her.

You’re acting like this isn’t that big of a deal — that nobody’s going to die because you’re watching porn at work.  But, I’ll tell you, your relationship will die if you don’t stop, and if you’re discovered at work, your job could die.

Mark, here is the bottom line: see a therapist as soon as possible. You’re out of control and you need professional help, OK?  Do it before it’s too late.

To read what relationship expert Rebecca Bent says about the problem of men and pornography, click here.

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