From prostate cancer and hypertension to gun violence and Metta World Peace, there are millions of things that can send us to an early grave. Even the “healthy” things we do have potentially harmful effects. You don’t want to consume too many calories, workout too hard, or engage in risky sexual behavior.
We’re constantly reminded of the potential dangers of the aforementioned activities, but there’s something else that can be just as dangerous, just as harmful, just potentially fatal: the toxic woman.
While most women are far from toxic, there are some whose appeal causes us to overlook the fact that they’re not good for us. These women are the reason why movies like “Fatal Attraction” resonate so deeply and scare the bejesus out of us. None of us are above finding a roasted kitten in our microwaves, so all we have to do is try to educate ourselves about the signs and be extremely vigilant for any sign of them.
Here are a few types to avoid.
She’s an emotional terrorist.
While men (and women) tend to joke about how some ladies seem to be a bit more sensitive than the situation requires, being in a relationship with an emotional terrorist — a woman whose manipulative nature holds you “hostage” to each and every one of her whims — is no laughing matter. Their tendency to go from 0 to 60 puts you on perpetual egg shells, and has the potential to spill over into other aspects of your life as well.
She’s too much of a flirt.
Ironically, it may have been her way too flirty nature that first pulled you in. So what if you could never really tell if her interest was genuine, she had you wrapped around her finger the first time she touched your chest while laughing a bit too hard a joke that wasn’t even really that funny.
Now though, as a person on the other side, you begin to see how flirtatious manner affects men, and you worry yourself to death with the thought of her possibly crossing the line and cheating on you. Even if she has no intentions on stepping out, once this bug is in your head it can be very difficult to remove, and you spend most of your waking hours wondering if she’s sleeping with every man she works with, says hi to, and rides the train every morning with.
I’ll be the first to admit that it can be a bit of a turn on to find a woman who thinks the sun rises and sets in your pants. But, her reliance on you for her happiness, peace of mind, and over all fulfillment will eventually drain you (physically, spiritually, and mentally) and may even cause you to resent her.
Also, while her infatuation with you may be attractive, you have to remember that for a true codependent, it’s not even about you. They’re not obsessed with you as an individual as much as the fact that you give them an object to obsess about. I wouldn’t go as far to suggest that their care and concern for you isn’t genuine, but it’s must less sexy when you realize that the feelings they have for you don’t have much to do with who you are as a person.