Richard, 47, can’t last longer than a minute or two during intercourse. He’s always had very brief relationships, except with women who could orgasm as quickly as he could. He’s now with a woman who says they can work around his shortcomings. Can Richard do anything about his premature ejaculation problem?
Back in the day, men had to finish quickly before a lion came and ate them up. Today, not so much. Richard, your girlfriend is lying. Premature ejaculation isn’t something you can “work around.”
I want to make a point about how serious this problem is. Premature ejaculation is a relationship killer. I think sex is the barometer for how a relationship is going.
Did you know that premature ejaculation is the number one sexual dysfunction among men in America? 40% to 50% of men in this country experience it. Premature ejaculation is defined as lasting for 2 minutes or less. The average length of time for healthy intercourse is 5 to 10 minutes. Richard, that means you should be lasting 6 to 7 minutes.
You say you didn’t use condoms during your first few sexual experiences, so you finished really quickly because you were so excited. Condoms helped slow you down a bit, but not enough. Have you tried lidocaine spray? This is not something that you can just solve by thinking about something else, like baseball. Try a spray like Promescent, which you can find at promescent.com. It is an over-the-counter lidocaine spray. You spray it on your penis to numb you a bit, which will help you last longer.
If that doesn’t work, go to your urologist and ask him or her about anti-depressants. The side effect of many anti-depressant medications is delayed ejaculation. In my practice, when I see patients who experience premature ejaculation, I will sometimes prescribe a very low dose of an anti-depressant. The medication often helps them immensely.
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