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‘I’m having trouble lasting longer than a few minutes in bed. What should I do?’

‘I’m having trouble lasting longer than a few minutes in bed. What should I do?’

Tarice, 25, is concerned about his manhood. He’s been having trouble maintaining an erection in bed and isn’t sure what’s causing his problem. It’s caused issues in many of his relationships, and he wants to get to the bottom of it.

My Advice:

Tarice, you’re dealing with a very common problem called premature ejaculation. Ejaculation is called premature if it occurs sooner than desired, either before or shortly after penetration, and it causes distress to one or both partners. At any given time, premature ejaculation affects between 20% and 30% of men, so you’ve got a lot of company. And you’re right to take this seriously because it can really hurt a relationship.

Fortunately, there are several things that can help deal with this. First, experiment with different sex positions and see if any of them allow you to last longer. You should also focus on foreplay … don’t rush right into penetration, especially if your partner needs more time to reach orgasm — which is a very common situation.

You could also try using a condom, which can reduce sensation a bit and help you last. Or consider a condom coated with lidocaine, which is an anesthetic. The lidocaine slightly numbs the penis, which, again, can prevent you from climaxing as quickly. There was a study that came out recently that proved that a mixture of lidocaine and prilocaine used on the penis with a spray was very effective at delaying ejaculation. Even if you’re only able to get an extra minute out of sex, that could be a big deal! Right now you’re lasting about two minutes. If you can get this up to seven, then that’s a significant improvement.

If you’re still experiencing this issue after these steps, you may want to see a doctor, as they can prescribe medications specifically for premature ejaculation. Taking very low doses of certain anti-depressants can significantly delay ejaculation. Speak with your doctor first as this is an off-label solution, but urologists publish about this solution all the time. So, Tarice, thanks for the call and good luck — you’ve got a lot of options.

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