Byron’s got a problem. His girlfriend has always been aggressive in bed, but lately she’s been taking things too far. Recently he woke up in the middle of the night to discover she was fooling around with him during his sleep. While most guys might think this is fun, he’s afraid he’ll wake up sometime to find he’s missing body parts! How can he get his lady to take things down a notch?
Byron, you need to find a way to tell her you’re not comfortable taking things this far, without pushing her away. I understand you’re in love, but it’s not going to work if you’re not comfortable with the sex situation.
Here’s the problem you two are having. In her last relationship, your girlfriend was submissive and her partner was aggressive in bed. This is the kind of sex she enjoys, and now that you’re her boyfriend, she’d like you to take the role of the aggressor. When you don’t give her what she wants, she acts aggressively to try and get you to take control. This is why it’s gotten more and more dangerous in bed (which is a little spooky I have to admit). The longer she doesn’t get what she wants, the more she’s going to turn up the temperature between the sheets.
You need to take control of your sex life. Next time you come home, tell her exactly how things are going to go down in the bedroom. She’ll respect and probably enjoy that you’re taking charge. You better do something soon, or pretty soon you’re going to be walking around in a dog leash! If this doesn’t work and you still don’t feel comfortable with her in the bedroom after trying this, then she’s not for you.
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